filmed by the amazing pelangi putih film talents.
i knew i wouldn't have any control on my wedding with a supermom like mummy. even worst, she manages an event company. i am not complaining.
am probably one of the few brides that have never had any specific images of how i'd picture my wedding to be like. which i think contributed a lot to the fact that it was easy for my parents to decide for me. i was never choosy or particular about things. also, because i trusted their taste more than my own.
i only knew i'd love the color white on the day, and the rest, i left it to the 2 most important people in my life, who knew me like no other.
so i guess i never had any bridezilla moments. didn't have any issues alhamdulillah. what i did have control over was my wedding photographer - none other than my very own climbing buddy udey ismail, and i went with his recommendation to choose pelangi putih as videographers.
there's a lot of truth to this naseehah given to us , ' if redha is given by our parents, inshaAllah, Allah's redha will accompany it, '
for as long as we can, i hope i will always be given the chance to be of service to both of them. to be the best of a servant, so they may be granted easy access to jannah inshaAllah.
my friend shazana gave me this useful advice, when i told her how nervous i felt, how i didn't know what to do to prepare myself mentally for the whole thing about marriage, she said this,
" enjoy, every moment of it. the process, the journey towards the akaad, the preparation. enjoy it, embrace it. don't think of negative things, try not to attend to those doubts and whisperings, its shaytaan doing whatever they can to create self doubt in you, a marriage is a union for Allah to Allah, and shaytaan will do anything and everything to stop it from happening - hence the doubt. because after that, everything else is halal inshaAllah. make lots of dua, learn the rights of a husband a wife, inshaAllah, Allah will make easy your dealings, especially when the intention from the start was for Him and nothing else "
i know parents always want the best for us, i know mine did. so i let them take over - and alhamdulillah, ill keep this with me forever.
among some gems shared by pak sheikh hafidz - a learned scholar of yayasan al jenderami, who taught mom and dad and whom my brothers and i grew up learning from :
an advice he would give to newly married couples -
1) seek advices from couples who have been married for over 20 years. sit with them, ask advice from them how did they went through their times, be friends with elderly couples. as they are the people who have walked the path and have tasted all kinds of experiences. sit with the 'veterans' of married life. ask what keeps them together, ask what needs to be done to keep the bond intact.
2) he mentioned how it was also important to remember of each others parents once we enter marriage life. that the husband's duty is towards his parents, and that a wife should always understand that. but bearing in mind that husband's need to also realise that their wives have parents that needs to be attended to as well and the importance of taking care of them both.
3) always be in a state of learning. learn together. go to religious classes together, prepare yourself to be a better servant, a better parent inshaAllah, a better partner. to never forget our main purpose of being in this dunya.
4) to remember marriage is always about giving and hardly any taking. to give - and give for Allah and that once an understanding an intention is built towards that, we wouldn't take disappointments so harshly or hardly when we don't get anything back , because the main focus was always about giving in the first place.
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thank you mummy, daddy, for such a beautiful wedding. thank you, for guiding me through this. i look forward to more guidance in the future, inshaAllah.
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